The fact that you redirect to the /me page is just because the fatally flash disconnect link is set to go to the /me page. The rest should be shown in your emulator logs like others have pointed out before me.
When changing the default mysql port, you need to change the connection port in the connect area. So instead of just having host = 127.0.0.1 it must be 127.0.0.1:3306 change 3306 to the new port you are using. Why would you change the port?
As I've said two times already, I don't really deal with SWF's, but you add the item to hof_furni, you add the row to furnidata, and you use the same ID as sprite_id in the furniture table of the database.